It has been a while, I do apologise. I'd like to tell you it's because we've been basejumping in Peru, but given I've just had to google the word 'basejumping' to double check it's actually a thing, I think you can safely assume that didn't happen. We have of course largely been spending our time indoors avoiding fresh air and the sun.
Sometimes I write blogs and fail to provide updates as to how things are, so here's a quick rundown:
On the whole, life is good. It could just be an age thing, I don't have any other children to make the comparison to, but these last few months I feel like I'm just beginning to know The Boy. Truly know him, as a person, rather than just 'my child'. Finally, after all these years, I feel like I understand him. As he learns to articulate himself more and more, so many of his outbursts that happen "for no reason" make perfect sense. Sometimes I wish I could jump in the tardis and head back ten years, maybe then I might have been able to understand that young, frightened toddler so much more. And maybe I could have helped him more too.
But, we can't dwell in the past. All we have is the here and now, and the here and now is largely an alright place. Here's an example of just how far he's come. The other day we were visiting a friend and her brilliant son, TheBoyWhoLovesLego. After lunch, we decided we'd go out for some of that dreaded fresh air I mentioned earlier. We committed a cardinal sin - a last minute decision, no warning in advance. TheBoyWhoLovesLego made it quite clear that he really didn't want to go... The Boy said nothing. I asked him to get his things together, and prepared myself for the onslaught. He just left to go into the other room. After a while, I decided to see where he'd got to. I found him sitting on a chair, tapping his forehead with his hand.
"What are you doing", I asked.
"I don't want to go either", he smiled, "so I'm trying to put the excitement into my head".
This blog is about bringing up The Boy. He's 12 years old and autistic. It's written by The Dad. It's my words, my view. Other people will think differently and have different opinions. Good.